Also, texts never deliver the tone of messages clearly, so the person can misunderstand it easily! Actions speak louder than words! A small gesture can go a long way, if done correctly. Get them something they like, something they may have mentioned casually in a conversation and show them that you were listening.
This will surely melt their heart. Make sure to be as genuine as you can so they know how you actually feel. If you know someone and like them, the perfect time is now. The only time you should wait is when your crush is currently dating someone. Telling someone that you like them while they're in a relationship can make things kind of complicated.
It's best to find someone else to crush on for a while, and return to the person later when they're single. Try to stay calm and cool. Despite what you may think, telling someone that you like them shouldn't be a big deal. Even if they don't feel the same way, it'll be such a nice thing to say! Especially if you approach them in a calm and cool way, being gentle and humorous in your approach.
Make it easy and try to take the pressure off yourself. Build yourself up before you do it. Look in the mirror and say, "I got this. I'm a cool person my crush should want to be with. Look your best on the day you decide to do it.
Wear clean, stylish clothes that fit you well and flatter you, and make sure you're fresh-breathed and clean-haired. Introduce yourself, if necessary. If you don't know your crush very well, it can be kind of difficult to confess a crush. The last thing you want to do is to take the risk of saying so and having them say, "Wait, who are you?
It doesn't have to be complicated: "Hey, I don't know if you know me real well. We're in the same grade, I think we had Mr. Robinson's class last year? Well, I've wanted to tell you something for a while Talk one-on-one, in person. The best way to have this conversation is in private. It's important that both of you feel as comfortable and calm as possible, to avoid making this a super-big-deal, but it's also good to have a little privacy so it's less embarrassing.
Passing between class periods can be a great time to catch someone really quickly. Right after class or when you're leaving the same class is a good time, too. Or, you could try to sit together on the bus. Just hang back and say, "Hey, can I talk to you for a minute? It can be really awkward if it doesn't end up going well. It's a private conversation, so do it one-one-one.
Have a specific date or event in mind to follow up with. If you say, "I like you" and your crush says, "I like you too," then what? Are you just going to say, "Well It's important to have a specific date in mind so you can follow up. If a dance is coming up, say, "Cool, I hoped maybe we could go to the dance together. Would you like to? Want to go for pizza this Friday? Say around 7? Don't expect much of an answer if you tell someone that you like them.
They may want to think about it for a while. That's a good thing. Don't worry about waiting. Cut to the chase. The big moment doesn't have to be a big deal. There's no point in making it complicated, or super-creative, when the content is "I like you. I've always noticed you, and you seem really cute and sweet. I find myself thinking about you. I like you a lot. Lots of people who feel awkward in this situation think it will be better if they're reading from a script, but that'll just make you sound like a robot.
Talk naturally, as if you were talking to one of your oldest friends. Don't worry about rejection. You know what? It happens. It's happened to everyone. Being rejected might sting a little at first, but it's a whole lot better than wondering what might have happened if you'd have said something, but didn't. You'll grow up, you'll move on, and so will your crush. Just get out there and go for it. If you get rejected, just smile and say, "Well, I'm glad to know at least.
Have a good rest of your week. Even if you're feeling upset, at least you know now and can move on. Method 3. Befriend them online first, if you haven't already. One good way to do a little research and get to know someone before you confess a crush is to be friends on Facebook, or follow them on Twitter. If you're waiting, stop waiting and reach out online first to make contact. Having a couple of online chats can help break the ice when you finally talk in person.
To get a conversation started when you're in person, you can bring stuff up that you already talked about online, or reference something that everyone saw on Facebook that day. Good ice-breaker. Make sure your crush isn't seeing anyone. One of the most important things to find out before you confess a crush is whether or not your crush is currently seeing anyone. If they are, it's probably a good idea to hang back, because you don't want to make things over-complicated for someone that you like.
Online is an easy way to check, or you can also just watch closely and see whether your crush seems to be committed. Talk to mutual friends or ask around. Talk to mutual friends about your crush. Reach out to friends and acquaintances if you want to learn more about the person you're crushing on.
Find a reason to hang out with people that are friends with your crush and just start asking about them. Do they like anyone? Do you think they'd be interested? This one is obviously easier said than done, but confidence and clarity will make a complete difference in your convo with your crush. Keep in mind that although you want to hope for the best, it's possible that your crush might not reciprocate your feelings.
TBH, rejection sucks, but it's also a risk that comes with being vulnerable. So when you're sharing your feelings, make sure that you don't make them feel like they have to respond. You're probably too busy thinking about how you don't want to make them feel weird, but it's super important that you're comfortable, too.
And if texting is comfortable for you, do that! You might think texting something so personal is thoughtless or weird, but Sullivan actually thinks sending a text is totally fine.
Sullivan refers to this tactic as testing the "do nothing" scenario to evaluate if you should even confess your crush. Consider how you'd feel if your crush moved away and never find out how you felt about them, Sullivan says.
If so, you are likely already too invested not to find out what could be. But also remember that it is not the end of the world if you face rejection or indifference — life will go on. You have your BFFs, family, dog, cat On to the next!
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